Restoration and Responsibility

²⁵ Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. ²⁶ When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman,^[b] here is your son,” ²⁷ and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.  John 19: 25-27

The third word of Jesus from the cross is all about Restoration, Relationships and Responsibility.

I asked a young mother  how did  she feel when her  son had a deep cut on his head, she told  me she was concerned and felt a deep pain to see her son suffer. She then went into action in getting him medical aid. This is natural and all mothers who are at this worship service may have  experienced this emotion. 

Now if a mother were  told that a “ Sword will pierce through your own soul also”  what  would she expect? 

At the cross a mother is seeing the sword  pierce through her heart and soul and she is holding back tears, and is  unable to take action to support her son. She would want to tend that nail pierced hands, and clean the  striped back or  perhaps remove the blood the head.

Her  focus is on the  immediate and now.

The unexpected happens at this context. The person who is being hurt the most is the one who takes the initiative.   While  at the cross, we are  looking at the Cross, on the other hand,  Jesus on the cross is viewing our tomorrow and the day after.  Jesus demonstrates his responsibility through the Third word. 

Jesus foresaw the pain of a widow who will be without her son and responded to that pain.  Dear Friends  Mary did not express her pain.  The message for all Mothers is that Jesus knows your inner fears and pains. You do not have to express them or talk about them.  Jesus understands  your loneliness. You just have to lay them at the cross.

The  third word also  fulfils the commandment ““Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

Jesus entered the Life of Mary and spent 33 years with her.  At Calvary, she feels a loneliness at having  lost  her husband and now an impending loss of a son.  Jesus does not leave you incomplete when he enters your life. In fact  Jesus restores everything.  When we see the tragedy of Judas, we get to see the character of Satan, who enters with our consent and leaves at his will. Jesus will not leave us nor forsake us.

Jesus restored a Relationship which in that society was very important to give Status to a woman. Jesus  gave a son to Mary.

Shall we focus now on the son to whom Jesus gave a mother.

John  was the disciple whom Jesus loved. Jesus had  confidence in him.  The disciple also loved  Jesus.  This  means that  they both shared a good relationship and exchanged ideas.  They would have  discussed  strategy, they would have planned and worked together.   When you love some one do you share a special relationship with that person?

Love is just not a static feeling,  Love implies Sharing, it implies dialogue and action. It also means taking a risk and standing for the person  you who loves you.

John  followed  Jesus to the  cross. 

Jesus loved John so he trusts him with the care of his mother. To put this in perspective  whom can anyone  entrust our mother’s, or daughters when there is a  fear for the   safety of women in our city.  Jesus could trust John  to take care of his mother. 

Jesus said  Here is your  mother  to John.  John took immediate action.

He behaved like a son to  Mary immediately. The reading  says from that hour that disciple took her to his own home.  By behaving like a son, the scene at the cross became a home immediately.

Why did Jesus ask John to take care of his Mother?

Since John loved  Jesus,  he was waiting at the cross. He  has not waiting   at the  cross because Jesus will ask him to take care of His mother. Since John was waiting at the cross he was given this responsibility. Today if we truly love Jesus are  we waiting at the Cross?  Do we dare to be  at the cross despite popular culture says and public opinion? John was at the Cross, Therefore  Jesus gave him a responsibility of Trust. Friends where are we today?  Have we run away scared or  Are we  waiting at the cross to accept  responsibility.  The  harvest is plentiful and the labourers are few

Why did  Jesus call Mary  “ woman “     In the  Gospel of Mathew  Jesus said

⁴⁸ He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” ⁴⁹ Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. ⁵⁰ For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” 

There fore  Jesus  addressed  Mary as woman,  He clearly  differentiated His Divinity from His Humanness.  As far as Jesus was concerned who ever does the will of my Father is my brother, sister and mother.   Since we all have a Heavenly Father,  that relationship is not  spoken off.  Jesus has given the universal definition of relationship, today  there are parents who need care and attention and children who need guidance and love.

Dear Friends as We wait at the Cross to do the Father’s will, allow Jesus to Restore our Relationships and give us  Responsibility.

May we  like  Mary  pray “I am the Lord’s servant, May your word to me be fulfilled.”